The most important thing I remember my dad teaching me when I was growing up is “It takes a lot of truth to gain trust and just one lie to lose it all”
That is so true. Branden and I made an agreement with each other not to lie, even if it hurts me, don’t lie to me and don’t go behind my back.
I trust him so much. I don’t have to worry about going through his phone or wondering why he came home from work later than usual.
Now that doesn’t mean that Branden lying to me or being with someone else doesn’t cross my mind. Of course it does. I’m Human. I have insecurities.
But there is a line that I don’t cross. If I truly trust him I won’t need to go through his phone or accuse him of cheating.
I have those doubts and then I remind my self that he has done nothing to break my trust.
If he did lie to me, it would probably be repairable. Depending on what its about. if he lied to me about being a murderer, then i don’t know if I would be able to move forward with him lol but most lies i believe we would be able to move past but that trust would be completely gone and only time and honesty will be able to repair it. When you are able to forgive then you need to fully forgive. That means not bringing it up every time you get into an argument. its hard but its possible.
NO cheating. If you truly love someone then being faithful should come easy.
When we got married we agreed, we can work through anything that life throws at us. We will have bad days and maybe even bad years but we can fight through it. Cheating is the only thing that we have agre\ed will be terms for divorce. I respect myself too much to allow someone to treat me like that and I know he feels the same.
I can tell you that out of the 6.5 years we have been together, we have never accused each other of cheating. No one should have to constantly prove to their spouse that they can be trusted when they have done nothing to break your trust.